Friday, October 21, 2005
Parent-Teacher Conference
So, today was the dreaded parent-teacher conference. I have been so nervous about this day I can barely sleep. I mean I have already had two conferences with this woman so I am not exactly sure what I was so afraid of, but I have been a mess waiting for this day. I even had this whole list of attack comments and questions. I was ready to take on this teacher head on. Of course I know Tyler is bad to the bone, but I will defend him to the ends of this universe. THEN, when I get home I will freak out and address all his issues! : ) So, needless to say my stomach was in knots waiting for the news. (Remember she did tell me that she thought Tyler was just "so bright" but that his grades won't reflect that because of his behavior.)
Shocker - the teacher was 40 minutes late for the conference! I went in ready for battle - I sat down and she said, "Well, we already talked about all his issues, you know all about that." Then, she pulled out his report card and proceeded to tell me how the grading system works; they never give students "E"'s the first quarter because that gives them something to work for blah, blah, blah... Then she puts down the report card and says, "but I had no choice but to give them to Tyler because he is just so bright!" Yes, I am saying that Tyler got all "E"'s on his report card - this would be equivalent to getting straight A's!!! I was so proud I nearly cried. (Truth is I did tear up.) He got awesome marks in everything EXCEPT for personal growth. In that category there are sub categories and you either get a check or a negative. Out of 10 categories he got 2 checks and the rest negatives. Now I know this is a problem - but the fact that he can keep his grades up in the midst of all this is just pleasing. I am so proud of him. I know this behavior stuff will work itself out. Some of it will be easy to correct; following directions, listening, obeying rules, etc... It would be much harder to fix things like his grades if he just didn't get it.
I know a teacher's job is to say all these nice things about her students, but I still feel so proud of all the complimentary things she said about Tyler. With all the things he has been doing I get nervous she won't like him. I felt like she put those feelings to rest.
Now if we can get this child to make some wise choices there will be no stopping him!!!
GOOD JOB TYLER!!!!!
Shocker - the teacher was 40 minutes late for the conference! I went in ready for battle - I sat down and she said, "Well, we already talked about all his issues, you know all about that." Then, she pulled out his report card and proceeded to tell me how the grading system works; they never give students "E"'s the first quarter because that gives them something to work for blah, blah, blah... Then she puts down the report card and says, "but I had no choice but to give them to Tyler because he is just so bright!" Yes, I am saying that Tyler got all "E"'s on his report card - this would be equivalent to getting straight A's!!! I was so proud I nearly cried. (Truth is I did tear up.) He got awesome marks in everything EXCEPT for personal growth. In that category there are sub categories and you either get a check or a negative. Out of 10 categories he got 2 checks and the rest negatives. Now I know this is a problem - but the fact that he can keep his grades up in the midst of all this is just pleasing. I am so proud of him. I know this behavior stuff will work itself out. Some of it will be easy to correct; following directions, listening, obeying rules, etc... It would be much harder to fix things like his grades if he just didn't get it.
I know a teacher's job is to say all these nice things about her students, but I still feel so proud of all the complimentary things she said about Tyler. With all the things he has been doing I get nervous she won't like him. I felt like she put those feelings to rest.
Now if we can get this child to make some wise choices there will be no stopping him!!!
GOOD JOB TYLER!!!!!
